Ask for what you want. Most of the time, the answer will be no. Ask anyways. People who seem out-of-reach are only an email, text, phone-call, or social media direct message away.
You talk yourself out of asking because it’s less difficult than asking. When you ask, knowing the answer will probably be no, then you are willingly doing something with a high likelihood of failure. That’s not fun. But is it worth it?
Possible outcomes if you ask:
- They say no. You end up exactly where you started.
- They say nothing. You end up exactly where you started.
- They say yes! You get what you want.
Nobody will get angry at you for asking for what you want. At the very least, asking the question is an expression of self-confidence which will feel good. If the likelihood that you will get what you want is extremely low, asking might even feel exhilarating.
Possible outcomes if you don’t ask:
- You end up exactly where you started.
Send the email. Make the pitch. Ask. Take it from Steve Jobs.