Some Notes on Haters

Some Notes on Haters

“There is only one way to avoid criticism in life: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.”


Ever since I started vlogging regularly about a month ago, I haven’t gotten much public criticism. I’ve gotten a few “thumbs down” ratings on my videos, but not much more than that.

This lack-of-haters has concerned me. Throughout my life, every time I’ve made myself vulnerable, stood by an opinion, or put myself out there for anyone to see, I get a healthy dose of angry comments from people who disagree with me. Of course most responses are usually positive, but there’s always a handful of negative people who speak up. I’ve come to view the presence of haters in my life as an indication that I’m moving in the right direction. Any time you move forward, you will necessarily run into negativity trying to pull you back.

Why am I not getting any haters? Am I not being controversial enough? Are people just not watching my stuff? What am I doing wrong?

It’s not that I want people to hate me. In fact, I hate that people hate me. It’s incredibly uncomfortable and prods my sense of self-confidence. But it’s a necessary part of life that can be used to propel you forward OR to hold you back, depending on how you react.

Haters don’t just come in the form of thumbs down ratings on YouTube. They don’t just appear as angry Facebook comments. They aren’t just on the internet. Every hater is a real life person, and the more you create, try, test, do, and interact, the higher your chance of running into haters becomes. You might turn your own friends or customers into haters. You might turn a mentor into a hater. A potential customer might end up hating on you after you make the wrong move.

That’s exactly what happened to me today. A potential customer of mine told me I had a terrible attitude and that I have a lot to learn about business.

Well… at least I’m no longer worried about not having haters. Congrats, Simon.

That’s what the honest voice in my head told me after I read the message. I felt personally attacked. It gave me the same feeling I get when somebody calls me an idiot on Facebook or YouTube.

He doesn’t know me!” I pleaded internally.

I know I have a great attitude, but this person is right about one thing. I have a lot to learn about business. I won’t dive into the details of this particular interaction, but of course in hindsight I could have avoided this. I’m testing out new business models and trying all sorts of things as I figure out what the hell I’m doing. I try new ideas and many of them don’t work out because I’m at the very beginning of carving my piece in the business world. If there aren’t mistakes and bumps along the way, then I’m not learning and improving as I go. Some potential customers will inevitably be the second-hand victims of my business decisions that end up not working out the way I had hoped.

But that won’t stop me from moving forward.

In an effort to squeeze value out of what seems like pure negativity, I decided to learn as much as I can from this experience and put it behind me.

This experience has taught me two things.

First, I need to be more clear about the services I’m providing. Going into a customer interaction without a crystal clear understanding of how I can help them is a great way to waste everyone’s time and set yourself up to be put down. I had to learn this at some point and now I know how I will improve for next time.

Second, I want to surround myself with people who view mistakes in the same way I do: positive progress. I will never push somebody down, even if they deserve it. Every mistake carries an immediate opportunity for growth. I will only push people to use their mistakes to become better. I refuse to work with people who use these opportunities to push people down instead of building them up.

Keep making mistakes and keep getting haters. It’s good for you.


P.S. Writing this post made me feel so much better about this experience. If people are hating on you, channel that negative energy to create something positive, whether it’s a video, blog post, podcast, a painting, or anything else.



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I’d rather commit to too many things that I’m forced to quit some of them than not commit to enough and spend more of my time thinking and wondering than doing.

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Is There an Objective Reality?

Is There an Objective Reality?


If you step outside of your own point of view and imagine everything that actually goes on in the universe around you, it makes sense that there is an objective reality that exists. Things happen the way that they happen. A is A.

The problem is that we, as humans, are limited. We have strong powers of reason and perception that help us shape our individual view of the world around us, but the amount we can experience and deduce pales in comparison to the amount that is actually out there.

This is good news. When you accept that your worldview is limited and that there is an objective reality, you find the opportunity to team up with people around you. Everyone has their own flashlight that reveals a part of the universe to them. When we empathize and collaborate with other people, we gain access to their flashlight. As a result, our worldview is expanded because we can see more that we couldn’t see before.

The more you experience time and the more you deploy empathy, the more accurately you will understand the objective reality around you. It will become easier to be honest with yourself and others. You will face hard truths and level up more quickly.

You’ll understand yourself more.


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Taking Fault Indicates the Growth Mindset

People who take fault have the growth mindset. If you haven’t read Mindset by Carol Dweck I highly recommend it. I wrote a post about it earlier this year.

The growth mindset is the belief that in any situation you can improve. People with the growth mindset value trying and learning more than status or ending position.

I’ve noticed that people with the growth mindset tend to take fault whenever they can. In disputes, they don’t get defensive to try to prove they are right, they immediately find a fault in themselves because they believe they can fix it.


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Jyve Video

Here’s a video I did recently for Jyve.

Jyve empowers local musicians and bands by connecting them to venues through a mobile app. Through the app you’ll be able to create a profile, connect with musicians, sync your calendar, find gigs and manage them all in one place.

We shot this video featuring one of the users of Jyve. In the video he explains how the app helps him manage his responsibilities as a restaurant manager.

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